The circle of life (for most people) seems to be grow up, meet your partner, get married, have babies. Other people around you (doesn’t matter if it’s a close relative or not) always seem to be asking about the next step immediately after you check one off the list: You’re dating? When are you getting married? You got married? When are you going to have a baby? You had a baby? When’s number two coming along?
When I was dating my husband I didn’t get bugged too much about when I was going to get married but now that we are almost two years, “when are you going to have a baby?” or “are you guys ‘trying’?” comes up quite often. I guess I’m one of the few, but I think that whether we are “trying” or not isn’t anyone else’s business but mine and my husbands. However, it’s hard to avoid the questioning. I think back and can’t imagine anyone asking my grandparents or parents if they were “trying”. It’s just weird to me.
When people do ask, if I don’t respond with, “Yes, we tracking my ovulation and “trying” as often as we can!” they seem to revert to, “Oh it’s ok, you’re young, enjoy being married with just you and your husband”. Kind of contradicting but I think it’s because they don’t know how to react when the answer isn’t “yes”.
Because I’m a Gemini, I of course feel different each day about the “baby talk”. Social media adds to how I view it too. I feel like 90% of the time I sign on to Facebook someone is either announcing they are pregnant or there are pictures of a newborn right there on the front page.
I’m trying to find the positive in this time of my life which can be somewhat confusing. I do feel that although I don’t have a picture of a newborn on my Facebook page, that I am still very blessed. I am young, healthy and have a loving husband and family. It’s nice to see women I know of all ages having children too, which reminds me that there really isn’t a rush even though science says differently.
So for now, I will not pour out any of the thoughts that are for myself and my husband to know. I will just continue to enjoy the time I have with my nephews and niece– being an Auntie is really great practice!